DISCLAIMER: This is my personal journal/blog. In no shape, way or form are my views related to where I work, family, friends, or used against them.
If you feel that there is any possibility that you will be offended by anything you may see here, I suggest that you do not view my journal.
Do not assume that you know everything there is to know about a me simply because you read my journal/blog on a regular basis. Any judgements you make will be based on the information I have provided you about me, which is probably vague, incomplete or embellished. Whatever opinion you form on me as a person, or my life as a whole, is probably best kept to yourself. Remember, you are the reader. An obvious exception to this would be if someone were asking for advice or opinions. Any opinions expressed on this site are mine. I am always glad to engage in intellectual debate about my opinions. A good argument might even persuade me to change them. Feel free to use the comments section to respond to what I say. In doing so, however, please respect my right to my beliefs. While I prefer not to censor, I reserve the right to delete messages that I deem inappropriate, offensive or lacks substance (aka a stupid comment).
Never contact me, the writer, for more details on events or personal information than what I have already provided on the site. Chances are if the information you seek isn't readily available, I have found it too personal or innapropriate to share. If you are close to me they will eventually tell you privately, so intrusive questions are not necessary, just leave it alone. If you are meant to know, you will.
If you have a real life relationship with me, the writer, remember that communication is very important. View weblogs as online journals, no less sacred than a diary hidden between the mattresses.
It is important that as a friend, relative, co-worker or whatever you may be to me, the writer, that your presence at my weblog not impede my ability to express themselves. Remember this is my outlet. I may not want you to read certain things I might write about you or others you care about, in order to spare your feelings, avoid drama or maintain their privacy. You should respect this and immediately stop going to the site, and never relay any information you gather at their site to others who might use it against them.
If someone or myself writes about you and you don't appreciate it, approach me about it. Try to remain calm and polite. Explain that you are entitled to your privacy as well. There are many compromises that can be reached from using vague nicknames to protect your anonymity, or not mentioning you at all. If you are upset because I'm writing negative things about you, be reasonable, try to see if there is a way to resolve the issues and mend your relationship with me, the writer. If that doesn't seem to be possible, stop going to the website.
Ex-friends, lovers and estranged family members who have been cut out of the writer's life should refrain from reading their journal. If the relationship has ended, there is no reason you should get daily updates on the person's life. If you simply can't help yourself, do it quietly, and never repeat what you read or use it to hurt the writer.
The internet is a place that encourages free and creative expression, and as in any environment where people are given this freedom, conflict may arise. If an author uses language or materials that offend you, leave. Contacting the person or their isp, demanding they remove the content or change their ways is absurd because you are viewing their content of your own free will by visiting their site. Simply stop going there and you won't have to see whatever it is you don't like about the site. An obvious exception to this would be if someone were providing illegal materials, in which case it would be appropriate to complain to their isp or contact wuthorities.
Under no circumstances should you ever direct link anything, this includes link buttons and any other graphics the writer may offer. It is essentially bandwidth theft, because it uses data transfer, and the owner of the server has to pay for it. Always save the image and upload it to your own server unless the author specifically states you can do otherwise.